Others question why when I was hit by patients, a story in the book, I did not press charges as I encourage others to do.
In the book, I shared a story of being hit by a patient and NOT pressing charges. YES! ME! Charges NOT charged for one reason, it’s NOT me to press charges. It’s NOT me because it’s NOT my nature. It’s NOT my nature because I CAN, WILL, and HAVE defended myself.
By NO MEANS is my behavior acceptable and much less expected of anyone. On that note, and to be clear, AMBUSING INNNOCENCE and ESPECIALLY healthcare directed violence is NOT part of ANYONE’s JOB. NO ONES! For myself and ONLY FOR MYSELF, I DO NOT expect ANYONE to DEFEND me or STAND with me. As I will defend MYSELF!
However, that is NOT my expectations of others, much less in healthcare, where my expectation is that healthcare workers will REPORT ALL those who AMBUSH INNOCENCE, EXCLAMATION POINT!
Another story in the book, I wrote of going to jail and then labeled a felon after my younger sibling was beaten on the mean streets of where we grew up. Our neighborhood was a tough place and we both, if not ALL of us in the community, learned early that to survive we had to take care of ourselves or form alliances to do so.
For those who have NOT read the book a succinct version of that story. I was 17 years old. My younger brother, one year younger than I, 16 years old at the time. Then, one afternoon, after my younger brother told me he had been beaten by another person I took matters into my own hands, as SO MANY TIMES BEFORE and SINCE. No big deal.
Interestingly, it was NOT until I recalled and documented that story in the book did I realize the person who assaulted by younger brother, and someone I had fought a number of times before, was older than I. The person was either 18 or 19 years old, maybe 20, at the time nonetheless an ADULT. Regardless, NEVER did my brother, my parents, or I consider pressing charges. At the time, even though physically fighting with others in the streets was just part of growing up NEVER was it part of one’s JOB! NEVER! NOR is it part of anyone's job TODAY, TOMORROW or EVER!
Yet, for me, where I grew up and how I developed my character, morals, and values I DID NOT include pressing charges after someone was assaulted, regardless verbally, psychologically, or physically. Instead, I simply took care of it myself and hit back with three attitudes.
-HIT BACK FIRST!
-HIT BACK HARD!
On that note, in healthcare, my profession of more than 30 years, I WILL HIT BACK AS WELL! I might not hit first. Although I have. But MOST DEFINITELY I WILL HIT BACK HARD!
By hitting back and hitting back hard I am NOT accepting healthcare directed violence as part of my job and much less is it the expectation for others. By hitting back and hitting back hard I am simply being me but DO NOT expect others to follow suit.
And why, again, to be clear, FOR NO REASON healthcare workers or anyone for that matter to follow my IDIOT-ology! NO ONE! As ALL healthcare directed violence IS TO BE REPORTED, regardless how insignificant some will categorize it, EXCLAMATION POINT!
-I DO NOT CARE others will not take the report. REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE others will label you. REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE the person was ill. REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE you can handle it. REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE you struck back (and even if you hit harder). REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE there were no witnesses. REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE you might lose your job. REPORT IT ANYHOW!
-I DO NOT CARE the MANY reasons! REPORT ALL HEALTHCARE DIRECTED VIOLENCE! And let the CRIMINAL COURTS sort them out!
Regardless the EXAGGERAGED UNREALISTIC EMOTIONAL EXPECTATIONS of others, patients, administrators, or ENABLERS! Despite their "FEEL GOOD" IMPOTENT policies and/or laws ONLY healthcare workers can steer healthcare in the right direction to take care of each other and take healthcare back to MAKE HEALTHCARE GREAT AGAIN!
I AM A NURSE!